Do you ever feel like you are saying something and others are not listening? It happens to all of us. We feel like we are clear, but then someone has to come in and try to fix whatever the situation is. This is a common issue in relationships with guys. Guys typically want to fix whatever the problem is. Often you just want to be heard. You may get sick of his lack of understanding and “getting it” but be patient. Help him understand. Maybe it is just best to show him this video.

It’s Not About the Nail from Jason Headley on Vimeo.

Why do you run?

I get asked a lot why I love running so much. It is hard to explain but I just do. The list could go on and on forever. So, I asked my Facebook community, “Why do you run?” Some gave moving answers like, because God has compelled me to do so. Others gave me answers about some sort of animal chasing after you. I loved each answer so I made a collage of my answers plus your answers. I run for myself, to know that I am strong, to feel healthy, to live longer, to live an active life, to set an example, to grow.


Running is about community, hence why you are sitting there reading about my running escapades, because we are in community together. Our communities ebb and flow as people come and go, friendships deepen and shift, while others simmer out or move away. I love the community of friends I have right now and I expect them to come cheer me on when I run the Portland Marathon on October 6th, but the people who have no excuse for not coming to cheer me on, well, my family. They are my forever existing community, they push me to be who I best can be. My siblings and I are exceptionally close to the point where I forget that not all families are like ours. We are each other’s biggest fans and biggest rivals. There are four of us, in order we are Kathy, Billy, Melissa and Rebecca.

Fitness of any kind takes support from other in your life. Let me just say that I have 3 amazing nephews {and one more on the way} and 3 amazing nieces, but today will host a story about my niece Addie who is 4 years-old. Since my last visit to this household, she has began to participate in the local youth running club. You see, my sister and I have inadvertently worked to brainwash her, in a healthy way, that running is fun. I imagine her little brain patterns went like this:

Mommy and Auntie Becca are friends. Mommy and Auntie Becca are sisters. Mommy and Auntie Becca love each other a lot so they like to spend time together. Mommy and Auntie Becca always run races with each other. Running a race is fun but hard so Mommy and Auntie Becca must be strong. Women are strong and they can run really fast. I am a woman and I can run really fast, which is fun, and I can do that with my sister Lucy someday, who can also be my friend, who I love dearly!

I don’t know if this is how she actually processed through everything but it seems like some awesome logic to me. I think that girls need role models to look up to and who better to find those in than your own family. I believe that investing our next generations is the best thing any of us can do. I am who I am today because women who I looked up to pushed themselves and balanced their lives in a chaotic world.

This is Addie. I love this picture of her because I think she

looks beautiful, brave, wild and feminine all in one shot.

Photo credit goes to my dad on this one!

His photos are awesome. Check out his Flikr account.



So on Monday morning, Addie and I put on our matching running outfits {grey dri-fit tops with neon yellow shorts} and went for a run. I met her at the tack by their house, after running 3 miles and she made me keep going. Addie ran 800 meters without stopping! I was very impressed with her four year-old body. {Not to mention that her 2 year-old sister ran 400 meters without stopping as well.} We have some runners on our hands.

 This brings me back my question: What do you run for?

There are a lot of correct answers to this question, some more valiant than others. I run for the next generation.

One Month Break

As we continue to grow and develop we are constantly asking ourselves “what is the best thing we can do to serve our readers/listeners.” We think about you a lot. It’s true. It’s the reason we started ChickChat. You. So we have taken the last month to think through and process why we do what we do and how we want to implement that in the best way. Life happens and things change and we can’t always do all the things we want to. And so our team is changing a bit. Jessica, who has done such a fabulous job with our fitness/health posts is taking a break. It’s the right thing for her and her family. Thank you Jessica, seriously!

Beeks has jumped in to fill that void. She will continue to bring us great insight into how to look good and not kill the bank, but she is also an avid runner who loves to talk about fitness and health. She will now take on that side of things.

After having talked to other bloggers we are changing how often we post. Having 4-5 posts a week can overwhelm writers and readers alike. We don’t want to flood you with posts for flooding sake. We want to give you enough stuff to digest and not be “too much” of a good thing. So you will see about 3 posts a week and a podcast. That may not seem like a huge change, and it isn’t, but it seems to be the right thing for everyone involved.

So, there you have it. We have pulled the cover up and given you some insider viewing so you have a good picture of what is going on. This is still a website that is “open and honest discussions all things girl.” We will have guest posts that will cover random topics that are not in our “main categories” and will still be encouraging and challenging for you.

If you have thoughts on what kind of topics you would like us to cover, please don’t hesitate to ask. We really want this to be about you! Drop us an email, tweet us, FaceBook us. There are lots of ways to get a hold of us. Just do it.

While you are waiting to hear something new from us, click on over to the podcast page and listen to the latest podcast on “When Dads are MIA.” This is a powerful interview with Tammy and Tara that will surely encourage you and challenge you.

Also, keep your “eyes and ears” open for a contest coming this month where you could win big!


Nautical Themed

I love anchors. You may think this is because I have been conditioned by their current popularity but I think to believe that it is because both my grandfathers served in the navy during World War II.

Either way, nautical themed accessories are everywhere this summer and you can a easily add them to your everyday wardrobe. Just grab a pair of boat shoes and pair them with your favorite colored skinnies.

Here are a few of my favorite.

What are your favorite summer trends? Try some of these ideas or send me some photos of your own!

Remember rock it till you love it!!